Dear Tina,

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It’s 4 o’clock in the morning, November 25th. I’m in my hotel room, and I can’t sleep. I feel the need to talk to you. Tomorrow, you would have been 85, and I don’t think I’ve ever missed you more than I do now.

There’s so much I should write. The brutal, honest truth about what’s my life been like for a long time but as long as my family is around, there are things I can’t openly talk about.

Since your passing, it’s been hard to keep the momentum of the Tina Blog alive. 

I couldn’t bring myself to post, to share, or to celebrate you as I did before. It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s just that I’ve been stuck. A feeling of being completely obsolete has taken hold of me..

When I look at all the amazing content on YouTube and social media, I can’t help but feel like you deserve better than what I can offer.

The truth is, hiding in sorrow doesn’t honour the legacy you left behind. Your strength still inspires me—and so many others—every single day. I know it’s time for me to step up and continue the work you sparked in me, to celebrate you the way you truly deserve.

And then there’s our annual Tina Turner party. Seeing my Tina friends from all over the world this weekend in Cologne fills me with deep joy and renewed energy. They mean more to me than they know. The connections you inspired are still alive and thriving. Those moments give me hope and a little push to keep going.

During our party, I met some people for the first time who told me how much they appreciated the blog and missed its content. Honestly, I never thought I had an impact on anyone. I’ve always seen myself as a simple messenger for your work, a transparent vector, a useful idiot to some. 

But hearing those kind words made me think that what I’m doing probably matters, even in small ways. It gives me the feeling that maybe, and I say maybe, I’m not totally dead inside and forgotten. 

The world  desperately needs more people like you—your grace, your courage, your incredible humanity.

Thank you for everything. For the music, the lessons, the love, and the unspoken bond we shared through every note you sang and every step you danced. You’ve been a guiding force in my life, and your influence will never fade.

I miss you.

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Teacher - Traveller - Blogger - Founder of Tina Turner Blog (2010)

69 Replies to “Dear Tina,”

  1. Hi Ben,

    Beautifull written and you are not alone.

    Keep your thoughts positive like Tina did and keep posting, we’ve missed you too.

    Big hugs & love,

    Patrick

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  7. Benஐ

    Nous ne pouvons pas oublier ton travail qui nous a ouvert une porte pour mieux connaître ♡Tina & Ben🍁 Depuis l’envol de Tinaෆ, nous pensons à elle tous les jours, elle nous accompagne dans notre parcours.

    N’oublions que Tina savait faire passer des messages dans ses gestes, les petits détails font des grands messages. Sans Tina♡On ne saurait connaître soi-mêmeঞsa méditation⛩📿🕉👌nous a fait avancer dans la vie. Elle nous a donnée tout ce qu’il faut pour avancer dans la bonne direction.

    Mon cher Benᰔ Je pense à toi assez souvent pour tout ce que tu fait pour nous. Tu es important pour nous et à chaque fois que je vois un de tes messages, je suis en ébullition⚡︎Tu fais partie de nous… Et tous les fans de Tina sont aussi notre famille☕︎︎Chacun fait passer son message de la manière qu’ils le ressentent. Tu es une preuve d’amour

    🍁Ben🍁Ton message nous a vraiment toucher. Pour que la tristesse ne soit pas présente☺Je mets une méditation de Tina et je suis olympique pour un grand stade. On se mets tous à t’envoyer des énergies renouvelables positives pour que tu arrives au sommet. Nous chantons…nous dansons🍁

    🍁Ben🍁Un grand merci pour tout. Tous ensemble nous sommes en méditation…. Happy birthdayʚʚʚTinaʚɞ

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  8. Merci Ben pour ce texte magnifique ! Tu exprimes des sentiments largement partagés par tous les fans : TINA fait et fera toujours partie de nos vies !!! Elle restera pour toujours une force indestructible, un monument de beauté et de joie, de courage et d’espoir malgré les épreuves de la vie… Merci à toi Ben, d’entretenir la flamme pour nous toutes et tous !!! Take care xxx

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  9. Be strong dear Ben. Tina wouldn’t have want us to grieve, I think she’d prefere we celebrate her life, just the way we did last Saturday in Cologne. Big hug, Tony x

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    1. Dear Ben . Every day , really every day we think about Beloved Tina Turner, Bach she was & is & will always be dear in our hearts and live in our hearts, she was big part in our life since age 12, all the stations in our life. We all know she was more than a singer , she entered deep to our souls, hearts. We always remember and Thank You Ben to you and other friends about the opportunity to send to Tina cards to her wedding day, participation in our love story – book gift to Tina. Me & my twin sister used to send her on private message letters/ songs to her birthday. The true – Still hard to accept her death but we pray for her soul , and pray for Erwin all the best. and remember that she was happy person. We don’t forget your blog and always checking if you write something. Thank You for everything you did for us fans , the blog. And sharing your thoughts. Wish you Ben, all the best. Love, the twins: Chen & Keren

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  14. As I read the previous post I began to cry bcz I felt everything you said. You have kept this blog going bcz of the love you shared and it also keeps us connected in some ways too. It’s still hard to believe Tina is gone , when I hear or play her music she is still here though. As she will be Forever Tina.

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    1. Thank you Rita for your message. Sorry if it got you emotional, let’s remember TINA and her strength, she’ll live forever in our mind and heart. Take care ❤️

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  15. I’m crying reading your post .I’m presently listening to my Tina Turner playlist and having a few drinks because I can’t believe it’s already been two years since my Tina Turner 👑 left us. I miss her so much… She was and will always be Simply The Best, nobody else will ever and has never reached her level of devotion but most of all the level of how she was simply Tina.

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  17. We all flag from time to time – even though we are very committed. I believe it’s an opportunity to review and recommit. Renewal does us all an enormus amount of good. Tina Turner is still with all of us who believed in her – like many women I had a very violent husband in the early 70s and it waws Tina who got me through it even though we never met. Such was her goodness. I am forever thankful for her in my life.

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    1. Very well put Lorna and sorry to hear about your violent past. I hope you have peace and happiness today. Thank you for your message and thoughtful words, take care ❤️

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  19. Hi there Ben, thank you for the lovely message and reminder of how much TINA meant to us. Tina had the most amazing strength and courage, she was a beacon to all women who have been in her situation and all others who may find themselves there. I recently saw the musical in Melbourne and was blown away. I ended up in tears as you can imagine, reliving her fabulous music and the sheer joy of (almost) seeing her presence again.

    I saw a photo of her recently in which she looked tired, with a sadness in her eyes and I thought, yeah, she had done enough. Her physical strength and determination was astonishing, when you realize the battles that she was going through with her health. But, she gave us her all, and for that we can be eternally grateful. She left us with a legacy that is unmatched by any other performer (I feel), Just watch her video…Something Beautiful Remainshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1uXLFtXpeFU , and you’ll see what I mean. Thanks for your work.

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    1. Thank you so much Shez for your heartfelt message. Your words beautifully capture the profound impact Tina had on all of us. It’s incredible to hear that you had the chance to experience the musical in Melbourne—it must have been such an emotional and moving tribute to her legacy. I can only imagine the mix of joy and tears that must have come with reliving her music and feeling her presence through that powerful performance.

      It’s true, Tina’s strength and courage were nothing short of remarkable. She faced so many challenges with grace and determination, and her ability to channel those experiences into her art is something we’ll always treasure. I know exactly what you mean about her looking tired in some of her later photos—she gave so much of herself to the world, and yet she still managed to leave us with an unmatched legacy.

      Thank you for sharing Something Beautiful Remains. It’s such a poignant and fitting reflection of her spirit—her ability to create beauty even in the face of adversity. I’ll definitely take some time to watch it again and reflect on all she’s given us.

      Thanks again for reaching out and for your kind words. Tina’s light truly lives on in all of us who continue to celebrate her life and music.

      Warm regards,

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  20. Ben, we’ve never met, however, I feel as though we are friends—meeting thru a mutual friend, Tina Turner! Even though it’s probably not said enough, all of us so appreciate you.I too feel as though my music world will never be the same without Tina. She sings to me every night!!Take care my friend!!Mitzi HartSent from my iPhone

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    1. Thank you for your lovely message Mitzi ! We are all a part of a big TINA family even if we’ve never met. That was one of her many powers, bringing people together.. I hope you are well and hopefully we’ll meet someday! Best ❤️

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    1. Thank you so much sweet Jimese, I loved spending time with you during our TINA weekend. Your joie de vivre is contagious and fills me with happiness! I hope you are well and that we’ll see each other again very soon. Sending you all my love. Take care ❤️

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  22. It’s ok, she was a huge presence and it’s hard to believe this dynamo is gone to the heavens. I miss her very much too and it comforts me to know she had a wonderful husband with a great life with him. So well adored. Let your self heal, this is what she would want. Bless you and keep with the blog, we enjoy it!

    Much love and healing

    Sandi Bain

    Vancouver, Canada

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    1. Thank you very much Sandra. Messages like that fill me with renewed energy and appreciation for TINA and her incredible fans. I hope everything is well for you in Vancouver. Take care and I send you all my love. Best! ❤️

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  23. Ben… thanks for your message. Great to hear from you. I will always miss Tina😢😫 Were you her Employee as well as her dear friend? Tina wants you to be happy and continue your Blog. I look forward to hearing from you. Peace be with you ☮️💙🙏🏼

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    1. Hello Connie, thanks for reaching out and for your kind words! I wasn’t TINA’s employee nor her friend, just a devoted fan like you who wanted to share his passion of our Queen with the world ☺️ Take care ❤️

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      1. Ben… thank you for your reply. You are SIMPLY THE BEST!!  I know Tina is very proud of you for honoring her with your blog. You are a true friend!!  I look forward to your messages. Happy Holidays!! 🎄☮️💜Sent from my iPhone

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  25. Dear BenThank you for the touching words. I am also one of those who open the blog almost every day. I love the website and have read many posts several times. I would be delighted if you could find the strength to write new texts again. I think you need an exchange with Sophia Loren right now, who would tell you: “Ben, stop lounging around in your home and go back to work”. I would be delighted if you could give us Tina moments again.All the best from Switzerland, Marco

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    1. Dear Marco,

      Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful message—it truly brightened my day. Knowing that you visit the blog so often and find joy in its posts means the world to me. It’s a reminder of how special this community is and how deeply Tina’s legacy continues to connect us.

      Your reference to Sophia Loren made me smile! I can almost hear her saying those words. 😊 You’re right—Tina’s spirit was all about resilience and pushing forward, and I’ll do my best to honor that by continuing to share moments that celebrate her incredible life.

      Thank you for your unwavering support, Marco. It’s messages like yours that inspire me to keep going. Sending warm wishes to beautiful Switzerland!

      All the best ❤️

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  26. Dear BenThank you for the touching words. I am also one of those who open the blog almost every day. I love the website and have read many posts several times. I would be delighted if you could find the strength to write new texts again. I think you need an exchange with Sophia Loren right now, who would tell you: “Ben, stop lounging around in your home and go back to work”. I would be delighted if you could give us Tina moments again.All the best from Switzerland, Marco

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    1. Thank you dear Paul, I always enjoy your company and energy during our TINA party! I hope you are well at home and I am looking forward to seeing you again in the near future! Take care my friend ❤️

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  29. I couldn’t have written this any better. Yes, please keep this blog going. I loved Tina so very much. She was such a wonderful role model for me when I was a young teen. My heart still breaks to know she is not here anymore. However, I am so blessed and honored to have been able to see her live on stage several times in my life. Nobody will ever be able to fill her shoes. She was genuine, kind, and loved her fans. Happy heavenly birthday Tina. Love you always 💓

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    1. Thank you for your heartfelt message. It touches me deeply to hear how much Tina meant to you, especially during your formative years. She truly was an extraordinary role model—her strength, kindness, and authenticity resonated with so many of us.

      Her concerts are treasures that stay with us forever, reminding us of her incredible energy and the love she shared with her fans. You’re absolutely right—there will never be another like Tina.

      Thank you for sharing your memories and for your encouragement to keep the blog alive. Together, we can continue celebrating her legacy and honoring the light she brought into the world.

      With gratitude ❤️

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  30. Hi Ben, thank you for your message and beautiful words, you’ve brought tears to my eyes for sure. We love your blog, please keep it going if you can, keep Tina’s light shining for us and her legacy alive. Your blog brings us fans together.

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    1. Thank you so much Falkaa for taking the time to reply. TINA will always be our guiding light and I’ll be there to keep her legacy alive. Sending you my love and gratitude. Best! ❤️

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  31. Hello Ben,

    Please know you were to tell us your story now. Remember, “there are no coincidences.” You help to magnify Tina’s light…and we embraced all the love, challenges and magical wonders of Tina, because of you.” You shall rise, regroup and remain at the steering wheel of your life going forward. Embrace the guidance of Tina…and keep sharing with us…your assignment about our beloved Tina.

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    1. Thank you for your deeply encouraging message Sylvia. Your belief in me and your thoughtful words are truly uplifting. I’m reminded that Tina’s light continues to shine through all of us, and your message feels like a gentle nudge to embrace her spirit and move forward with purpose.

      You’re absolutely right—there are no coincidences. Tina’s strength and resilience were her greatest lessons to us, and I will do my best to honor her legacy by sharing her magic and message with the world.

      Thank you for your support and for reminding me of this important calling. Together, we’ll continue celebrating the extraordinary life of our beloved Tina.

      With heartfelt gratitude ❤️

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  32. dear ben

    I so appreciate your letter to tina. It’s honest and vulnerable and reaching out - all very good things in times of loss and grief. Tina has been a huge force in our lives, and very especially yours - she hears, knows, and I imagine is present in your energetic field. You feel like someone with a strong life force. Tina’s loss is a major dis-orientation for one’s life. I trust in time, you will re-orient and re-configure with Tina, You, and all that is important and meaningful to you. Much Love

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  33. She would want you to move forward like she did. I am going to have a bracelet made up with her dob on it to remind myself to determined, focused and to believe in myself…..just like Roger said in the interview.

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    1. Thank you Gary! You are absolutely right, we should never forget to believe in ourselves . Let me know when you get that bracelet, fantastic idea! ❤️

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  34. Finally !

    It seems that everyone is looking forward to reading you again! Tina, her fans and your Friends are proud to be able to rely on you to continue to animate this passion that suits you so well ! You will never be alone.

    You’r … Simply the best !

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    1. Thank you so much my sweet Kevin for leaving a message. I always enjoy our conversations and I’m looking forward to seeing you very soon…

      My heart will go on ❤️

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  35. Oh Ben! You made me cry!. I can feel the powerful love you feel for Tina in every stroke of your pen. Thank you for loving her and honouring her! Whenever you see 11:26 am or pm on your clock, watch, cell phone say a minute prayer for her or do something symbolic. She’s looking down on ya, and loving you back my friend!

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  36. This blog is a spot of joy and you do an amazing job. Please keep it going for you and us. You are an amazing fan for the work you do. It is important to know you are crating smiles even though you may not see them with your own eyes. Thank You! Thank You!

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    1. Awww Todd, thanks a million for your lovely message, it really means the world to me honestly. I’ll keep on working for fans like yourself! Please take care and I send you all my love. Best! ❤️

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  37. Dear Ben,

    I don’t think I ever posted any comment on your blog even though I’ve read every single one of your blog entries/news.

    I used to come here everyday in hope of reading any new exciting news about our beloved Tina, about her work or any other record or book that was about to come out. It was you that provided me such joy. I could feel your words and your light and it felt so good

    Then, on the tragic May of 2023 a few days apart of losing a very important family member we lose the phisical presence of our dear Tina.

    It was hard for me to come here again. It was painful not only for myself but also by realising you too were in pain with this loss.

    However life does go on, and we must keep living knowing that our love for her, her words, her songs, her smile and laugh, and most important of all her teachings will always be with us as long as we cherish them.

    THANK YOU Ben for being there for us as well.

    My Love to You,

    J Carlos (Portugal)

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